huh. it’s grey-asexual but not grey-aromantic, and it’s grey-romantic but not grey-sexual?
i mean i don’t think those are The Rules but they seem to be chosen 95% of the time
(more reasons why i prefer simply “grey,” fuck binary-poled spectra and aligning with one side even in a word that says the sides are insufficient)
I don’t really see grey-aromantic/grey-romantic used enough to have noticed a pattern either way, but if it is true I actually wonder if it might be because of linguistic patterns (and ease of pronunciation), at least partially?
Specifically i mean the stress patterns for each word - asexual has primary stress on the second syllable (a-SEX-ual*), whereas aromantic has primary stress on the third syllable/secondary stress on the first syllable (A-ro-MAN-tic).
When adding the “Grey-” prefix, it’s usually becomes the primary stressed syllable (at least when i pronounce it), which makes “grey-aromantic” a little hard to say because it has two stressed syllables butting heads, complicated by the fact that the “A” of romantic is identical to the “ay” of gray - so instead of “GRAY-A-ro-MAN-tic” (which is just such an awkward stress pattern) its really easy to just blend it into “GRAY-ro-MAN-tic”.
Gray-asexual doesn’t really have this problem though, since asexual doesn’t begin with a stressed syllable.
I’m curious, how do other people pronounce each of these terms?
*as far as i can tell i tend to slur the -ual into one syllable, but i’m not 100% sure on this.
**also note I’m basing these only on how i pronounce things - it would be interesting to see whether these hold with other people’s pronunciations or if there are other trends. This isn’t a particularly rigorous analysis, so take everything i say with a grain of salt.
***This also doesn’t fully explain the trend in written posts, though people’s mental pronunciations will certainly impact their choice to some extent.
****There probaby are still other influence at play to some extant - for example, grey-A is enough of an established term that definitely affects how “greysexual” has fallen out of favor, but gray-aromantic/grey-romantic is still more up in the air, which may be part of the reason that there’s more variation.
*****I also wonder if people who identify as grey-romantic ever use the term “grey-ro”/”greyro”? Or would it still just be “Grey-aro”? or just not abbreviated?
I think I have a couple of linguisticy followers here, does this seem feasibly correct at all you?